- Like yourself: Learn to accept the good with the bad. All of us have certain features we don’t like but can’t change. However, you can make these features look better through targeted exercises and a good diet. Growing up, I hated my legs and butt; I always felt they looked too masculine. It wasn’t until I finally accepted that this was how they were and I was going to do the best I could with them that I finally liked them. Don’t shy away from the mirror, look and find the parts of your body you like. Tell yourself repeatedly that you look hot.
- Cop an attitude: If you put out positive energy, it will come back to you. If you want something, you will get it but only after you put your mind to it. Start this plan with the attitude that you’re going to succeed.
- Step away from the scale: The worst thing you can do is constantly weigh yourself. I’ll let you in on a little secret – there’s no way you can put on pounds of fat overnight. To gain 1 pound, you would have to add 3,500 more calories to your normal diet. Now that’s a lot of food! What are the chances of you eating 35 slices of bread? Not likely! There will be variations on the scale from morning to night just from the weight of food and water in your system. All that can make you weigh up to an extra 5 pounds. This is not fat, so don’t stress or obsess over a number on a scale. The clothes test is much more accurate – if your clothes look good and you feel good, forget the numbers. Weigh yourself weekly or, better still, every other week. Choose the same time, preferably in the morning and midweek.
- Don’t give up: The reflection of your body on the outside is a true reflection of what is going on inside. I’ve watched clients curl up and cry when they stepped on the scale and saw that they were 2 pounds heavier. They just couldn’t seem to get it into their heads that muscle weighs more than fat or that they could be carrying excess water. Then they usually binged on food for comfort instead of thinking about how they really feel. Before clients get on the scale, I ask them to give me an unbiased comment on how they feel about their body. Then if their weight is not what they expected, I’ll gently remind them of what they’ve just told me. It can work both ways; sometimes clients feel like they haven’t accomplished anything, and then they get on the scale and see that it’s not that bad. It’s always a big surprise.
- Have fun: Laugh and pretend that you enjoy exercising. You may surprise yourself and have fun. An optimistic attitude goes a long way.
- Learn to accept compliments: When the compliments about your new body and gorgeous glow start pouring in, accept them! Most women aren’t good at this. We can dole out compliments to our friends, our kids, and the barista at Starbucks, but when we get a little praise we refute it. Usually it goes something like this: You’re at the mall when you run into a friend you haven’t seen in a few months. She says, “Wow, you look great. Look how toned your arms are!” Before she can finish her sentence, you’re saying, “But they’re still flabby and I’ve got a few pounds to lose off my butt.” All of a sudden you’ve nixed everything your friend has said. You haven’t even heard her compliment because you’ve been so busy filling the air with negative words about yourself. Next time, think of it this way: A compliment is a gift the other person is giving you. Now you wouldn’t open a gift and then immediately shove it back in your friend’s hand, saying, “I don’t want this.”Well, that’s exactly what you’re doing when you dispute a compliment. Instead, say, “Thank you” and shut up. Literally bite your tongue if you must, but let those positive words linger in the air. Let them soak in.
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